Christian marriage adviser: Use ‘fear and dread’ to control your wife — as God intended

Stephan:  Recently a reader wrote me to say that my assertion that one of the hallmarks of the Theocratic Right is its sexual dysfunction and obsessive need to control and subordinate women was an inaccurate misrepresentation. Really? In response I offer this. Is this your idea of a healthy relationship?
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Responding to comments from a men’s rights activist on a posting about finding enjoyment in sex with a wife who grudgingly agrees, the host of a website providing tips on proper Biblical “gender roles” agreed that keeping a woman in a constant state of fear is an appropriate way to control her actions.

Pointing to a column he wrote on “Female dread,” Rollo Tomassi explained that Christian men go about seeking sex with women all wrong by trying to “diffuse sexual anxiety and tension.” Instead, Tomassi said husbands should make their wives “unintentionally uncomfortable” in order to achieve “the rough, hard-core, make-up sex you never thought you’d have.”

Larry Solomon of Biblical Gender Roles agreed enthusiastically — albeit from a biblical perspective —  writing: “So should a wife Biblically speaking have a little healthy fear or dread of her husband? Absolutely!”

According to Solomon — who agreed with Tomassi’s distaste for feminism — the Bible says that women should submit to their husbands “’as unto the Lord’ (Ephesians 5:22)”

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Decline In Unions Weakens US Middle Class, Reduces Income Mobility Between Generations: New Research

Stephan:  When you are something other than a wellness oriented society, worker collectives are undesirable. What happens? Individual and social wellness decreases.  When you are wellness oriented, worker collectives are welcomed and encouraged. What happens? Individual and social wellness increases. That's the proposition. Here's the data.
Members of the Service Employees International Union march during a protest in support of a new contract for apartment building workers in New York City, April 2, 2014.  Credit: Reuters/Mike Segar

Members of the Service Employees International Union march during a protest in support of a new contract for apartment building workers in New York City, April 2, 2014.
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As unions crumble, the United States’ embattled middle class may be brought to its knees. A working paper published this week by the National Bureau of Economic Research suggests a “strong, though not necessarily causal” link between the power of labor unions, the well-being of the middle class and income mobility between generations. (emphasis added)

“If there is a causal component to the strong correlations we have found, the natural implication is that the U.S. will find it harder to address the problem of the diminishing middle-income group than if trade unions were as strong and viable as they were 30, 40 or 50 years ago,” researchers Richard Freeman, Eunice Han, David […]

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Surgery Goes Very Wrong 50% of the Time

Stephan:  How many medical errors are made in American hospitals during surgery? Until now no one could answer that question on a factual basis. Now they can. How about 50% of surgeries involve and error. Doesn't that make you feel warm and comfortable?
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The first-ever study to measure medical errors in the perioperative period (immediately before, during and after a surgical procedure) has found that a mistake is made in every other operation. The paper’s researchers analyzed more than 275 procedures undertaken at Massachusetts General Hospital (MGH), uncovering that a third of the errors resulted in patients being harmed.

The most common mistakes involved incorrect dosages being administered, symptoms indicated by a patient’s vital signs going untreated and mistakes in medication labeling. Of the adverse drug events that could have led to patients being harmed, 30 percent were considered significant, 69 percent serious and less than 2 percent were deemed to be life-threatening. Longer procedures, particularly those lasting more than six hours, had a higher rate of subsequent problems.

“We definitely have room for improvement in preventing perioperative medication errors, and now that we understand the types of errors that are being made and their frequencies, we can begin to develop targeted strategies to prevent them,” said Karen C Nanji, the paper’s lead author. “Given that MGH is a national leader in patient safety and […]

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Wealth gap destroying American economy, society

Stephan:  Here is an essay from a student at Texas State University that I not only agree with but whose existence gives me hope. I have selected it because she is a voice from the coming generation. If there are enough who think as she does wellness oriented change will happen.
Evelin Garcia

Evelyn Garcia

The wealth gap exists. This deficit has persisted since the birth of the nation, and its cyclical nature is its central flaw.

The belief that wealth and poverty are inherited from generation to generation is no myth. It is an unfortunate reality. The issue does not lie in the foretold fate of impoverished children or their inability to succeed. Income inequality delaying the poor provides an advantageous lead to those with the most money.

The reality of income inequality has created a cycle that keeps the rich at the top and the poor at the bottom. The wealth gap is a problem for everyone—except those who are part of the top one percent.

The top one percent in America owns 35 percent of all net worth, while the top ten percent owns 76 percent. This means the 280 million people in the country who do not belong to the top ten percent own less than half of the wealth produced in America.

It is often theorized that power should be held in the small […]

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After Company Raises Minimum Salary To $70,000, Revenue And Profits Double

Stephan:  Here is an example of what happens when a corporate head decides to run their company on the basis of wellness oriented employment policies. Not surprisingly everybody benefits. What is surprising is that stories like this one are so rare.
Sales representatives at Gravity Payments Credit: AP/Ted S. Warren

Sales representatives at Gravity Payments
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In April, Dan Price, CEO of the credit card payment processor Gravity Payments, announced that he will eventually raise minimum pay for all employees to at least $70,000 a year.

The move sparked not just a firestorm of media attention, but also a lawsuit from Price’s brother and co-founder Lucas, claiming that the pay raise violated his rights as a minority shareholder.

But six months later, the financial results are starting to come in: Price told Inc. Magazine that revenue is now growing at double the rate before the raises began and profits have also doubled since then.

On top of that, while it lost a few customers in the kerfuffle, the company’s customer retention rate rose from 91 to 95 percent, and only two employees quit. Two weeks after he made the initial announcement, the company was flooded with 4,500 resumes and new customer inquiries jumped from 30 a month to 2,000 a month.

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